Thursday, January 25, 2018

My thoughts on being a military wife.

From my 3 weeks experience of being a wife and a military spouse I have learned quite a bit...
Being a military wife is like being on a never ending roller coaster ride. Some days you feel fantastic and on top of the world, you feel like you can conquer it all, and others you're falling so fast down the drop you can't stop yourself. You're terrified, worried, and unsure of how to feel...

God has taught me a lot in two weeks of being without Zach and almost three weeks of being married. Let me start off by being honest and saying, yesterday was one of my worst days. I was angry, frustrated, confused, doubtful and afraid. The reality of my situation (although it's temporary) was hitting me like a ton of bricks. So please don't think for one instance that I look to be handling it beautifully. I don't have it all together and I have bad days. Yesterday was case and point. Today, was much better and I feel like myself and that "I Can Do This!" So hear I am, sharing my heart with you. 

In the intense moments of mental and spiritual attach yesterday, my head was swirling with so many different lies, fears, and worries. Can anyone else agree that the attack on the mind is by far one of the worst things? 🙋
Thoughts like, "You just graduated from Texas A & M and you're home with your parents while your husband is away, wow, that's super impressive." (LIE) "Are you sure you can handle this military path and want to pursue it with Zach?" (LIE) "Are you cut out to be a military wife? You're pretty much failing at it." (LIE) Those are a few of the lies that swirled in my head yesterday as I went through my day and the more they popped in my head, the more angry I became. The more I questioned myself and the path that God has put me on. I began to doubt the plans that the Lord has declared and proclaimed over me and my life.  "Is this normal, am I supposed to feel this way? This is so hard and it sucks and I want it to be over." I kept thinking that I've done long distance for four years, why now am I crumbling and unable to move on in life? The truth is, I can't change my feelings. They are there and need to be recognized. One thing I can change though is how I respond to them...
Zach is gone and that won't be changing anytime soon. You see, the reality of my life is that, I need to accept my circumstances and move forward so I can begin to do the work that God has called me to.  Accepting your circumstances can be hard though, whether you are a military spouse, a college student, a mom or a young professional. We all face hard things and circumstance we wish we could just skip. We all go through seasons in life where we don't want to accept where God has put us but you see friend, that's where God does the most work. When we are uncomfortable, sad, struggling and unsure of how we'll get through the day. When we are weak, HE is strong. 

Being a military wife means being okay with moving all around. It means being okay with being left for extended periods and being independent. It means being strong in the face of adversity. It means not letting the negative comments of "Why did you get married so young and right before he left?" affect you. It means supporting your husband from afar and affirming him in all his successes. It means blowing a virtual kiss through Face Time when all you want is a real one. It means trusting God in all circumstances and believing that He will carry on to completion every good work He has started. Lastly, it means not being a victim to your circumstances. 

These words I hope regardless of your season or where you are, point you to Jesus. I hope through my struggles and heartache you see God's bright light. I hope through me you see the peace of God and I hope that you're encouraged and inspired by my words. Not because their my own but because God is working in my heart and life. 

So what do I hope you'll take away from this? 
1. That being a military spouse isn't easy but gosh does it grow and strengthen you as a person. 
2. That during the hard times it's okay to feel things and experience emotions, it means you're human. (I need to tell myself this daily)
3. That God is faithful in every season. 

I hope this shed some light on my heart and encouraged you. It's been a really hard two weeks. I won't sugar coat my reality and say it hasn't, to be honest, Zach left two weeks ago but it feels like a lifetime. But this I know for sure that that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

I CAN do this and I WILL do this. 

Thanks for reading dear friends! 

If you enjoyed this post and hearing my heart on this new chapter will you let me know? I'll write more if it's something you all will read. 😊

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Sunday, January 21, 2018

How To: Bridesmaids Gifts

I've got another wedding post for ya, friends! Happy Sunday! I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend and feels ready to attack the week. I hope this post is helpful as the thought of getting gifts for all your girls during the craziness of the wedding process can seem rather daunting. So with that, let's talk bridesmaids gifts! This can be a hard one, what do you get your girls that they can have forever as a sweet reminder that they were a part of your day?! You don't want to break the bank nor do you want to be cheap; finding the happy medium can be hard.... 

As I searched and searched, Ebay was helpful and so was David's Bridal. They have a plethora of options, whether that be bags, mugs, jewelry or robes. Once you narrow down what you love it's fun to customize and find the best thing that suits your gals and you! 

Here are my steps for choosing what to get your girls and figuring out what works best for you! 

1) Decide on your budget! 
If you have a lot of girls your budget might be small whereas only having three to four girls may give you more funds. But definitely do this before you start looking for gifts so you aren't tempted to go over. It takes some self control but you'll be glad you did in the long run. 😉

2) Pick what you like based on the budget categories!
 David's Bridal has it organized by $10, $25, $50 and $100. I'll have a list of great options for you below! 

3) Figure out if customization is your thing.
I have friends that love customized items and others that don't. Whatever you love go with that, it's your day, remember? 😊 

4) Narrow down your choices and order! 
Deciding what I actually wanted to get my girls was a super hard choice. At the time I was in College Station so I probably called my mom about 10 times in the span of 30 minutes when I was trying to make a decision. So once your mind is finally made up, don't terry and place that order! 

I'm sharing with you the goodies that I picked along with items for every budget! 

Items under $10! 

Items under $25! 

Items under $50! 

Items under $100! 

Being that my wedding was in December, I picked Navy for my robes and decided to have everything coordinate off of that. The silk robes I chose give you an endless choice of possibilities for choosing a color! 

To purchase all the items I have pictured, shop them here:

I hope this was helpful for all the Brides-to-be and fun to read even if you aren't in this stage of life! 😊

Thanks so much for reading and have a wonderful week! I'm excited to get some more posts up!

This post is in collaboration with David's Bridal. All thoughts and opinions are my own. 

Thursday, January 18, 2018

David Gardner's Series: Married & Thrilled!

Today I'm wrapping up my series with David Gardner's and want to reflect and share my love for their company in this final post along with some wedding photos of our bands! If you missed the first three posts from the series you can find them herehere, and here.

I want to share with you all how much I treasure this company and why I will recommend them to every person I encounter for the rest of my life.
First, David and Julia are so generous. They love people well and truly care about you and your story when you enter their store.
Second, they are authentic. They are not like anyone else in the jewelry market in this area.
Third, from the outside looking in, customer service seems to be their number one concern.
Fourth, they have a range of styles, whether you love simple, classic, extravagant or unique they have it all! They don't just cater to one market.
Lastly, they treated Zach and I so well and delivered their product in a timely manner. Zach and I went in Labor Day weekend after we had switched the wedding date to December and Julia and David were so loving and helpful in the midst of the chaos. 

It's been such a joy after Zach has left to have a beautiful symbol of our promise to each other on my hand and I know he feels the exact same way. I look down at my hand and it just sparkles. It makes me smile and brings me such comfort during this difficult time. If you are in the engagement ring market, wedding band market or an anniversary gift, reach out to David Gardner.

 I'm excited to share more wedding photos with you all and update you on what the next few months will look like! I can't wait to get a house, decorate it and build our lives once he gets home.

Thank you David & Julia for playing such a huge part in mine and Zach's forever! We love you guys and are so grateful! 

Thanks for reading friends and stay tuned for more posts!! 

This post is in collaboration with David Gardner's Jewelers. All thoughts and opinions are my own. 

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Bridal Portraits

Happy Wedding Wednesday, friends! Wow! It's been over a month since I've been on the blog. I've missed it and I'm excited to be back. I know I say that every time but I am excited to get back into the swing of things and start creating wonderful content for you all! For those that have been following me on Instagram have seen that my life has been nothing short of boring since mid December. I graduated, got married and my husband left on a deployment! I've had a range of emotions and just been processing everything that has happened. To say it's been a whirlwind would be an understatement.

 I decided today I would share the photos from my bridal session! These were taken the weekend of November 10th.. it was around 40-50 degrees outside and I was freezing. At the time I had been praying for 60-70's the day of the wedding. Looking back that's absolutely comical considering on December 31st it was 15 degrees out and the coldest day of the year. I didn't even know what cold was. 😉  

These were taken at Robert E. Lee Park in Dallas, the same place Zach proposed! Let me tell you, if you're a current Bride to-be, I cannot recommend having your bridals done enough. It was so fun to get dressed up and feel exactly how I would the day of the wedding. I loved putting my dress on and doing a trial run on my hair. It gave me such peace of mind knowing that this is how I would look the day of. Not to mention, I love that I have these photos to share with Zach and did not have to stress about taking them the day of the wedding. I'm especially grateful now because the weather was being so difficult. 

One bummer part from the Bridals was my false lashes... somehow the glue got completely out of control and my eyes had an allergic reaction to them. Basically the glue was stuck to my lashes after I took them off and I couldn't remove it for around a month. It was awful and my eyes were slightly swollen for quite awhile. The day of the wedding I nixed the falsies and decided to just coat mascara which worked beautifully! If you love false lashes, I've linked the ones I used, if you want to go for just mascara I listed an incredible combo that will give you super full (false-looking) lashes. 

I've linked below as much of my wedding makeup as I possibly can!  On the day of the bridals I wore a foundation whereas the day of the actual wedding I had airbrush foundation but did everything else myself.

I've also linked my veil (which I've gotten tons of comments about) and shoes. I got them both on Amazon. 

I hope you enjoyed looking through these photos! It's so good to be back!

Thanks for reading!!

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